Wednesday, April 27, 2005
LIKE OR UNLIKE..
Have you guys ever thought about who are your friends? Consider people to be of 2 different categories : people like you & people unlike you (with complimentary qualities ) say like , bold/shy; outgoing / reserved; Have you observed whom do you get attracted to and whom do you get along with better??
I have a friend who is just complementary to me. She is so calm, so reserved, never comfortable in crowd...Infact, her likes and dislikes are just opposite to me that, when I go to buy a gift for her, I would just get the thing which I don't like at all and that would be her favorite one.. But, whenever I happen to meet her, I get enthralled!! I admire how she is and I wish to spend little more time with her.
But, even in general, from what I observed, I think I get easily attracted to people with complementary qualities to me and I have also seen my unlike friends reciprocating. Well, of course, I can get along very well with people 'like me' , though not easily attracted. But, personally, I have never had close friends before, who are like me which may have made me assume that complementary people are those who get along better.
When it comes to a partner, have you thought about what kind of partner you will be comfortable with?? In fact, I have argued with my friend (few yrs before ) that a person just opposite to me say like calm, not so outgoing, not over enthued would be the best. I used to think some complementary qualities will compromise each other’s deficit and ultimately they will have everything.. Maayaa at maayaa!!!!
But with time, I feel I am wrong... In the recent past, I got to know many people like me and moving with them made me change my opinion. I can feel some sort of ease and inner happiness when I move with them. I can feel that I don't need to bend myself (adjust) every time which I had been doing all these days unconsciously . I now think that I can move / get along better and stay happy with LIKE people.
How much so ever we have the attitude( or you try to develop the attitude) to adjust, there is the 'ease' and the 'being yourself ' factor . When we grow up, we tend to give importance to that.. That 'being yourself factor' remains undisturbed when you are with people like you.. When it remains undisturbed to a decent extent, I think we feel much happy within our selves. Say, for eg, you may be a reserved person and you may admire or get attracted by an outgoing person.. You may feel how nice this person is.. But, when you want to be yourself, being along with that person, in the long run, may not let you as you are and vice versa to that person too.
I am not trying to generalize that like people can be the best partner. I may be wrong .... But it’s just my opinion..
Innoru vishayam!!! When you get to deal with a like and an unlike person on a single context, have you observed that we naturally tend to side one of them (like), but attracted to the other (unlike) - may be for being so different !!! Enna, naan solrathu sarithaane!!!