We all have lost something, sometime, somewhere!!! No matter whatever it is, we have all lost it!!!
Sometimes, we realise that we lost it just immediately after it is actually lost.This is really shocking and we tend to feel it like a spark - xtremely painful and we may feel so much for it but we may tend to forget them soon. Say for example, we loose a precious materialistic possession/ sudden death/ loss of our close people.
Sometimes, we can feel while we are actually loosing it!!! That is really a long lasting pain and you just can't bear those moments. Its unimaginably painful and you can't hold the loss. You can't let it go.. You can't do anything about it also. You think about it day in and day out inspite of your routine/ schedule!!! You can't do anything properly!!! You can't show it anywhere too!!! Say for example, thinking about the loss of somebody with some uncurable disease or loosing an argument or spoiling the first game in a series and feeling the overall loss (though how much so ever you fair better in the next ones, you will end up loosing).
Another case is where you dont even feel you have lost it, though, others say that you have lost it..this is a bliss !!! Typical examples are the complaints from parents /friends that 'you dont behave respectfully / you were not careful abt money etc.'
No matter what ever you loose or whatever path you are while losing, 'acceptance' is something which has to be learnt. Infact, many people, during arguments, when they are actually getting convinced by the opposite one's sensible, logical explanation , they can't accept it. Rarely I see people saying from 'this is only right'..to confessing 'hey, i never thought this way.. yeh u r actually right'. Instead, they either get too verbose or say something and prove that they are also not wrong!!!They can't accept that they have to loose the argument as the opponent's words are much more logical!!
Learning to accept that it is not there has to come from 'self'(may be that is called maturity). Lamentations or sharing grieves, though may be soothing, can reduce the intensity of the lessons (of acceptance) you ought to learn from the loss. This is because sorrows love company and when you get company, you want to enjoy the feel of being sorrowful.. Believe me, though many of us claim that we don't like to be sad, we all love to stay and enjoy the sadness though it may not be in the crowd!!! Its a nice feeling but you can progress nowhere due to some of its components like selfpity and inferiority complex!! Its very easy to talk or even understand what is happening to you. But you won't practically implement it, as your mind needs something to chew and relish the sadness!!!
Once we learn to accept it, we can get going. Not that you will forget it, but you will accept it. Believe me, its THE strength!!!