Thursday, July 21, 2005

Acceptance - the strength!!!

We all have lost something, sometime, somewhere!!! No matter whatever it is, we have all lost it!!!

Sometimes, we realise that we lost it just immediately after it is actually lost.This is really shocking and we tend to feel it like a spark - xtremely painful and we may feel so much for it but we may tend to forget them soon. Say for example, we loose a precious materialistic possession/ sudden death/ loss of our close people.

Sometimes, we can feel while we are actually loosing it!!! That is really a long lasting pain and you just can't bear those moments. Its unimaginably painful and you can't hold the loss. You can't let it go.. You can't do anything about it also. You think about it day in and day out inspite of your routine/ schedule!!! You can't do anything properly!!! You can't show it anywhere too!!! Say for example, thinking about the loss of somebody with some uncurable disease or loosing an argument or spoiling the first game in a series and feeling the overall loss (though how much so ever you fair better in the next ones, you will end up loosing).

Another case is where you dont even feel you have lost it, though, others say that you have lost it..this is a bliss !!! Typical examples are the complaints from parents /friends that 'you dont behave respectfully / you were not careful abt money etc.'

No matter what ever you loose or whatever path you are while losing, 'acceptance' is something which has to be learnt. Infact, many people, during arguments, when they are actually getting convinced by the opposite one's sensible, logical explanation , they can't accept it. Rarely I see people saying from 'this is only right'..to confessing 'hey, i never thought this way.. yeh u r actually right'. Instead, they either get too verbose or say something and prove that they are also not wrong!!!They can't accept that they have to loose the argument as the opponent's words are much more logical!!

Learning to accept that it is not there has to come from 'self'(may be that is called maturity). Lamentations or sharing grieves, though may be soothing, can reduce the intensity of the lessons (of acceptance) you ought to learn from the loss. This is because sorrows love company and when you get company, you want to enjoy the feel of being sorrowful.. Believe me, though many of us claim that we don't like to be sad, we all love to stay and enjoy the sadness though it may not be in the crowd!!! Its a nice feeling but you can progress nowhere due to some of its components like selfpity and inferiority complex!! Its very easy to talk or even understand what is happening to you. But you won't practically implement it, as your mind needs something to chew and relish the sadness!!!

Once we learn to accept it, we can get going. Not that you will forget it, but you will accept it. Believe me, its THE strength!!!

12 comments:

Prabu Karthik said...

awesome post. one of your best.

Priya said...

Thanks PK!!!

Anonymous said...

Yes, I agree.A very good post. [super -o- super] Btw, Boost is the secret of my strength ;)..

-Vasu

Barath said...

I guess that the art of acceptance or learning grows as we learn to be less egoistic!...nyways...nice post!

TJ said...

Very Good post!!
THE strength, is not only to accept defeat, it is when victory is also accepted just in the same stride..

Subha said...

Priya,
When I look back, there were years when I'd not learnt the art of acceptance and I flailed, fought, flapped all in vain. Somehow, when I learnt to accept, things ceased to be so painful or fearful anymore...
Good one!

Priya said...

barath, i agree that its is really tough to accept when we r egoistic, but egoistic people mostly dont sink in melancholy when they dont get it.They get mad. Its only the not-so-egoistic people who get self hurt easily and sink in sadness.Thanks barath!

tj, thanks and i agree with you. Definitely, victory is a strength. Infact, i feel there are people who dont aceept victory on the same stride (though most of us would). They won't recognize victory as victory and their thirst of success is unquenchable..

subha and vasu, Thanks

Anonymous said...

hey you say acceptance is a sign of maturity?
can you define what maturity is?

Anonymous said...

I pretty much agree with u except relishing the sadness part...correct me if I am wrong but I think many people prefer solitude to company when they are sad...(or may be it all depends on what we've lost that makes us sad)

Acceptance or "take it easy policy" is the best policy :).

KP.
PS: No offence but you were using the word 'loose' for 'lose' rather loosely...:).

Barath said...

Priya ...egoistic do sink....but just that they dont accept...! :) nyways nice one!

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