Saturday, November 26, 2005

Sindhai Sidharal - 5

பூவெறுகோனும்--நாயேனைப் பாடலின் பொருளை இங்கு காண்க
Anbe Sivam
Family care is the important thing in case of mental illness. I strongly feel that the festivals, occasions and the environment created by the Indian culture would really help people in getting out of any sort of depression. But now a days, the nuclear family life and extremely busy city life have resulted in reduction in the quality time spent at home with people. And, the things of interest of parents, brothers and us do not lie closer unlike olden days where people did things together. Now a days, people don’t tend to share things with family which is totally understandable to an extent and friends do play a part in people’s life.. Enna maari ore kidkku life ellam friends dhaan . Still, family care is something that would help you get out of any problem as they are the people who play a vital role in deciding things on patient’s life.

I met a lady in the train during my last visit to India when I travelled from Bombay to Chennai. She is a tamilian from chennai. She was pretty smiling, young but obese. She was so nice. But she was pretty slow in thinking/ talking must be around 27 /28 year old !! Her family asked me to take care of her when they dropped her in station which sounded odd and unusual as I look much puny ( like a to-be taken care person) . Infact I thought that I have got a great matured look after I joined Ph.D. During the journey, she asked me what is my discipline etc. and when I said 'pharmacy Bachelors', she opened up asking that whether the medicines taken by her are exactly good or what is that for?? She was actually having olanzipine a drug that is given for psychosis. It seems that her parents took her to a psychiatrist when she was in 10th class because she was not active / fast in picking up!! Then she was always mocked by her family for dumbness (dhadhi- thats what they call her ). She started taking regular psychiatric medicine. She had brothers and sisters.

And when she was ready for marriage , she told the paiyan (alliance) that she takes some medicines inspite of her parents asking her to hide . The guy's families, ofcourse said a ' no'. The parents started looking at her as a problem and felt that she is a hindrance to marriage of other daughters. The feeling of being rejected increased her depression . God knows what happened that made the doctor put her into a proper psychosis treatment (olanzipine) ( which I don’t understand)!!! As I said before, the psychiatry drugs have a severe side effect profile. It is necessary to consider the age/state of the patient before giving any medicine. In general, doctors give mild effcicacy drug with less side effect profile for girls of young marriageable age so that it may not cause obesity or in case if prescribed, the docs ask them to work out regurlarly . Nothing was told to her !! I felt sorry for her. ( Here is where I see the role of reps. There are some docs who generate prescriptions based on the gifts you give and there are some docs whose prescriptions never changes based on others and who are sensible enough to understand that they should not play with people’s mind.) And, all she needs is love and care and not olanzipine!! Parents hate her because she has younger sisters to get married!! She is smart enough to understand that she has some problem. she accepts it which many don’t and explains me pretty sensibly and asked me to suggest a better doctor. She says that her parents wont be listening to her as well.. I suggested someone better. Aanaa Manasu romba kashta patten!!

My suggestion to anybody would be this- dont go to a psychiatrist unless u think there is a dire need. Most of the times it is a situational reaction. If gone, otherwise they make it worse due to poor diagnosis/ treatment!! Not that they are always bad but the field of treating mental disorders is so poorly understood. I am not coming to such conclusion based on just one case!! Infact I have seen many doctors who have helped people in getting better but the credit is totally to the family who ARE the people who make it better!!!

I agree that every body reacts to the pressure they face!! Parents/ relatives have their own frustrations in these days and it needs lot of time and care to treat mental illness. Parents / friends have to really know the way/ tactics to get them out. Even if they are out of illness, they can get better but we can never say that they will not get back to such pathetic state unless taken care… things do repeat in patients life!!! Infact, mental health is like a see-saa when it goes low, it is not good but when it goes high, again it is not suitable because going high will lead to going low.. Staying balanced is what is needed and when it is even tough for people who has never been affected , it is tough for somebody who has experienced something bitter..
In my opinion, when somebody is depressed say like a loss of their dearest people / love failure / emotionally hurt , there is nothing we can do directly unless they realize that themselves that they have to get going in life. All we can do is, be a tool/ aid to help them realize that/ prevent them from becoming a mentally ill person/ make them feel better when they are improving.. There is no rule like this is the tactics to make them but we can do something about it. All we need to have is patience and perseverance with them !! I agree that it becomes unbearable for us sometimes. But certain things what we do shall help others!! I will talk about that in the next (final ) post!

Makkale, God has given many things to us when compared to such people - 'Thammin meilyaarai nokki thamadudamai 'amma perithendru' agamakizhndhu kol' nnu solli irukkanga . All of us get upset and can’t accept some things in life. There is somebody who is there for us to make us feel better. We get better and so, it would be nice if we make somebody’s life better.

12 comments:

Senthil said...

Hi priya,
Recently I came across your blog and this is my first comment. Sindhai Sindharals are very nice and interesting with tamil quotes. Ofcourse, informative too. Awaiting for the next one.

cheers,
senthil

dinesh said...

Nalla thought process. Indha maadhiri kashta padaravanga lum nammala maadhiri oruthar dhaan nu purinjikkaradhu romba mukkiyam. Namakkum indha kashtam vera circumstances la vandhurukkalaam, or inimelum vara koodum nu purinjukkaaadha doctors kittrerndhu mental issues kku eppdi help vaanga mudiyum ?

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Anonymous said...

A good one Priya. Really nice of you.

-Vasu

Priya said...

thanks sendhil and vasu!
dinesh,
u r right. but nammakku oru case or rendu case. andha doctors adhaan thozhil.enn seiyaa???
But, u know i have seen some doctors who are extremely good in understanding abt such case.. but a bitter truth is that, mostly such good, rational doctors are eccentric and they are not popular in the field..

Jeevan said...

I have much family member to share with me, but no friends to share, (Before I start Blog). The best way to come out of depression is talk openly with some one who is very close to you; it can be a relative or Friends. Nice post Friend.

Arjuna_Speaks said...

Priya - thalaivar Arunachala photos potu iruken - parungo :)

godolphin said...

jus came across ur blog..it was so informative..never knew olanzipine had so much of a effect!
ur Sindhai Sidharal is good..!

Eclectic Blogger said...

Hi.. Nice post.. very true..

Btw, u answered me already:
http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=17906679&postID=112977222254090342

Thanks

Priya said...

jeevan,
when v r depressed, v cant think well and express well- we would sound more emotional. if the opposite party cant understand our state or underestimates (which is pretty common )our mental state we cant confide to them thereafter..infact, again it totally depends on your nature of being open/ closed.Thanks !

arjuna,
pathen already!!

godolphin, thanks! Keep visiting !

eclectic blogger,
sorry! i even forgot that i answered! thanks

யாத்திரீகன் said...

priya.. post by post, the content of the post is getting refined,

esp these words were striking truth..

>>There is somebody who is there >>for us to make us feel better. We >>get better and so, it would be nice>> if we make somebody’s life >>better.

but, you are going to finish this series with next post ?! i wish not..

-
செந்தில்/Senthil

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