'AATHICHOODI- 13' NOW AFTER A BREAK !!!
WISHING YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR!! Hope this year brings lots of peace and happiness to all of us !
Few days back, I was just thinking about the differences between how people used to live and how people are living..Just few things that struck my head...
First is 'giving respect in words' When its between friends, we define that there should be no respect - else you can't get closer. When its between a couple, we say 'he is like my friend'' - ultimately the equation leads to 'no respect'.But if we think about our ancestors, it not the case. The tamils in the olden days give respect to anybody and everybody. King would address queen with respect. Even in the last few decades (our parents ), wives would address husbands with respect - no calling by or with name(s). But now, we all say 'மரியாதை மனசுல இருந்தா போதும்'-(Mariyaathai manasula irundha pothum). We are getting kindaa westernized here in thoughts as people here do not show respect (though lot of courtesy)..
Next is - showering love / affection say 'anbu'. Now, when we part/meet a friend, many would hug or shake hand. If its between a couple, its would be hugs and kisses in public. Infact many would verbalize in public.For every phone call, the guy/ girl would say a ' love you ' and 'love you too'. Infact, it would appear artifical to us sometimes. Here, again, our ancestors have never done so. Never in any epic/ history the affection is shown out in public.Again we are getting kindaa westernized on this..
Giving respect in public through words and having affection within self (not showing in public) were social norms in our culture. But why did they have it ? or why should we not get westernized in this ? Well, my perception of our ancestors act is this : 'Affection is something which you should have in heart. Verbalizing it does not add any goodness unless you keep it up through action. Instead, it does a major harm tothe society knowlingly / unknowingly as there would many widows, people who lack good affection either as friends or from spouse or there would be people who miss them. ..
Respect is a concept that has to be given in public. You show respect to your spouse. your children would, your family would and your society would.There would be many a times when all of us do mistakes. But, one's knowledge (attained through age/ seniority) and intellect is one's own and it has to be respected for what it is. Closeness and respect are misconceived to be in the opposite planes.
Do you get the effect of listening to vijay's lecture in movies? Let me stop...
I am not here to advice/ blame anybody or say what is right or wrong. But just sharing thoughts and trying to perceive our ancestors act. hmm...Well, I came up with a kutti pudhu kavithai within 2 minutes while thinking about it ; Here it is and hope you like it!!
"அகத்தே அன்பு வைத்து,
புறத்தே பண்பு செய்து,
உலகத்தே கொள்கையெனக் கொள்வார்-பிறர்
மனத்தே கலக்கம் தாரார்! -அவரோ
தரத்தே மரத்தமிழனாய்த் வாழ்வார்!!"