Now, Kaalamegamaai siledai- Naaykkum Thengaaykkum in Tamilkkalvi
Well, what else do I wish to say in amma appa series?? Everyday I think some thing new and consider it to be important and I think" today i will write this"... that 'today' never came till today.. okay.. i am putting down all the thoughts that has come - random thoughts !!!
Ivlo rouse vittaalum amma appakku equivalent illa dhaan !! No doubt about it !! And also I think our parents have made lot of efforts to adapt to the new world, trying their best to keep up with new things like internet (ofcourse with our help only...pat your shoulders) and above all, have not defined themselves as ' i am this this and this and i cant take up this this this' unlike many of our generation people (in my opinion) who sometimes consider many things as nuisance..
But, definitely, I have some things to say to parents (older or newer generation). Please do not get me wrong that I am trying to act mature or better !!
Parents are extremely selfless w.r.t their kids. But how much they are to the society? Parents after becoming so, totally forget to live a life they enjoy or that helps the society (which they wish to but not do practically by setting different priorities !!)
Many of them consider that taking care of every step in our life is their duty and their priority !! Parents who have children with ages in teens and twenties still worry too much, micro-monitor and spend their time overcaring about them. In this aspect, I am kindaa proud of my parents who have learned to live w/o me since 1997 and they have life of their own to an extent. I would say that I have also played a great role in making them to be so.. say like I will never call up at all sometimes and have not set any expectations in their mind that "okay, i need to do this for priya this this and this... " It would be very irritating for them when you curb their care. But you know they learn to do other things other than thinking about me (you).
Still I dont know how effectively many parents set their priority at different stages of life and use their time for society (and not just relatives). I keep pushing my father to join some class of interest say yoga, playing instrument etc. Sometimes , it helps them to realize it when we suggest. Some people dont feel like getting out of their box.
I think there are lots of ways to join the society and contribute which would keep them busy and happy. I really would wish to urge parents to live the life that interests them w/o thinking what it will fetch in future say if you wished to learn something ..do it..!!!
Also worrying too much about relatives is something that I never liked!! (Though people may laugh at this but i (we) dont care abt what others think say, I have really liked the goshti which performs radha kalyanam or whatever in many home. You can see lots of people join them, go and sing bhajans in homes of people whom you dont even know!! wished to join them atleast for a month!!)
Our parents have so much talent say like doing some handicrafts like koodai making, mani bommai making , awesome traditional cooking etc which are getting extinct. It will be really nice if some of them volunteer to teach a group of interested children and pass it on. Some parents and grandparents know great home remedies for small health issues which has real meaning. It will be really nice if even some of us care to identify and bother to pass it on!!
I always wish to get back to india and try to pool info from many such people and do something (say form an association and set up a structure) to pass it on!!! Let us see what God thinks!! But I definitely think the younger generation has to understand the importance of what the oldies have gained through experience and the older generation has to realise what a great treasure they possess and how effectively they can serve the society !!
Any suggestion on what can be done practically???
Thanks for patiently reading amma appa series !!!