Thursday, May 04, 2006

Live your present !!

கண்ணாடியும் அரசனும் in Tamilkkalvi now!!

வைக்கோலும் மதயானையும் in Tamilkkalvi!!

Hey all
I am back..As like everybody, enjoyed every moment at home...Wished to blog about many things many number of times.. somehow could never make time...

Out of all the things that happened in last 2.5 yrs, there were 2 incidents that pierced me in..and that probed to post this..

1. My friends J's brother KM (who was also in touch with me in past) had commited suicide (by drinking poison) as the girl he loved was getting married to somebody. Believe me..He is such a sociable and wonderful person whom you can never imagine to do so..I had been to J 's wedding and heard this shocking news.Manasu romba kastamaa pochu!!

2. I went to give some things to a relative in India of my friend (here). That relative's daughter commiited suicide for the reason that she did not get admission into M.D Pediatrics which was her passion. Not that she didn't get admission at all...She got into a different field..

When i found her mom to know much about science and medicine, I casually asked her how does she all this, she revealed about her daughter in a composed manner --still i could see tears ready to gush out..But I really liked the way she looked into this issue.. Though she talked about other issues like reservation and question paper leak that played a role in her daughter's death, she never blamed anybody..and the first statement she said was this " இந்த காலத்துல குழந்தைகளுக்கு தோல்வியை தாங்ர பக்குவமோ, பலமோ இல்ல மா (indha kaalathula kuzhandhaingalaukku tholviyaa thaangikra pakkuvamo balamo illa maa) " ...

அப்படியே வேதம்புதிது சத்யராஜ் (நான் கரையேரிட்டேன் dialogue) அரை வாங்கின மாறி இருந்தது..(i just got reminded of vedam pudhidhu sathyaraj and the 'realisation' slap ) Yeh, its true...I completely accepted it on behalf of our generation.

My soapbox :
From these and many other incidents, we can clearly see that we cant accept the truth or the so called failure. I would say acceptance is THE strength. Lack of the attitude to accept the truth or the so called failure within "our selves" is the main problem I see. This may be sometimes because we may be brought up in a way that nothing is neglected to us which makes this situation an unacceptable one.Also failure to see other aspects of life is a problem - other things that had given them pleasure, happiness, courage and strength all these days. Say.. their family/ friends who have given them support or something that is thought/ talked to (be their strength/) make them successful..

I agree that it is very easy to talk and is tough being in that situation.. Yeh..But it is necessary for all of us to realise that future is not exactly what we actually expect it to be and we dont see that our soul (manasu) wants something but our likes/ passion do change/compromise with time and the situation created at that time. So, its better to live the present which is in our hands and the future is not in our hands.

No point in worrying about anything..We should learn to respond and not react to such big problems.. Working on our strengths and likes would definitely fetch happiness, peace and satisfaction. Physical exercises would surely help our emotions be in control and yoga would help to reduce kaamam(lust) krodham(anger) and lobham(greed) .Try it out..Bhakti and faith in God can keep us focussed in whatever we do.

Enna makkale,,, romba seriousaa pochoo... could n't help..I was very much upset for them and I wanted to raise this up... What is your say???

41 comments:

Prabhu said...

Shocking to say the least!
I cannot say one thing that could have made them act this way. It could be their brought-up, situations they went through in their short life that have moulded them this way.

But atleast one thing we can do is - making sure our kids realise losing is part of winning in the future and that everyone loses in their life.

Jeevan said...

Welcome back. i am learning many things when i lose one, i also dont worry about my future, because there is no guarantee we will wake up tommarow or not. very sad about J's brother and your relative's daughter.

Zeppelin said...

oh my god ! really shocking !

accept that our generation is a little weak emotionally.. sometimes a little too weak.. :)

indha kaalathula shave panna time illati...enna machi "love failurea" nu kekara alavukku adhu oru fashion aagi pochu... ! ennatha solla..

a very nice post... glad to know that there are more people who feel for humanity..

cheers!

vayasya said...

Though most people prefer to be rationalists now-a-days, I think belief in karma definitely goes a long way in preventing such unfortunate incidents.

Also the concept of feeling happy for what we have remaining (half empty cup vs. half full cup) rather than feeling sorry for what we missed helps a lot i guess.

good to have you back.

Priya said...

prabhu
very true.. i guess this generation can do it (if wanted)as we can be more friendly and sharing with next gen kids.

jeevan,
not many of us can realize that as we all dont go to extremely bad state.when reached, its tough to handle..
i remember some talks at my home.. when i loose some things, i wory too much and literally stay blank.
my uncles used to tell me some irrelevant things" come on... u kashtam / situation is not as bad as rama who lost his wife,,or drupathi who was about to loose all her respect..leave it cool. u will get it" - i never cared for those words.. but they make sense in the later ages...

arun,
haahaa.. funny...but very true..

epdi irukeenga? heard that u were in india too during my visit.. aalaye kaanum ingayum?? unga andha cute kutti paiyan photova edutheengale..why??!!!

vayasya,
very true.. but, andha pakkuvam ellarukkum varadhu kashtam..rombave kastam..
romba adipadanum :)- nalladhu kathukka adipadavendiyadhu dhaan unmai pola irukku..anyways, adi pattu ketta vazhikku pogardha vida this is better!!
thank u guys for the nice welcome!!

R.Subramanian said...

hmmmm..

itz all momentary feeling.... just the feeling of depression can make any one take the extreme step........

Kaadhalan padathula prabhudeva sonna mathiri, kobam, varutham, santhosam ippadi entha emotion vanthaalum oru 5 minutes amaithiya yosichu athukkapuram oru decision edutha that wud be the right decision .........

Arjuna_Speaks said...

Priya - I think I have one suggestion for all these ppl who commit and r thinking of committing suicide - go join the army and become a tharkolai manithan (I am saying it tamil - police vanthu pudichidumonu bhayama iruku :P lol)!Atleast u will save ur nation from ur enemies!

Shuba said...

Decision to commit sucide is a spur of the second decision..Those who think well will never think about it...About your friend's brother...love is a part of life and not life itself..And about the doctor...She has wasted her MBBS...She could have attempted the exam once again..but life once gone is gone forever.

Anonymous said...

I sincerely hope this generation learn few things from your blog and stop attempting for sucide foolishly. Good to know from your blog only in our generation suciding is in raise and there are ppl like you who can give valuble tips to save one from such depressing thots..I wish ppl who have already committed come and read your blog and get theselves corrected..but for what good?

Priya said...

subra,
kadhalan thathuvammm hmmm..

arjuna,
pullarikudhu ungal naatuppatru :)-

shuba
love and passion doesnot allow people to think i guess..

anon,
hahaa...neenga enna ottinaalum ennaku sirippu dhaan varudhu.. enna seiyya ponga!!

Anonymous said...

I was just going to end my life, when my friend asked me to read your blog. My thanks to him and to you. You saved a life priya. Thank you. Thank you so much.

Priya said...

hahahaa...

Anonymous said...

What is this priya ? I am here talking with all the seriousness in the world, thanking you for a life saved, and all you can do is laugh ? That is wicked priya.

Anonymous said...

Your lack of seriousness, in my statement, is causing me lose interest in life, once again. You were the one that gave me inspiration to live, with your writing. Now, you do this ?

She giveth, she taketh away.

Priya said...

haahaha.. roftl

Anonymous said...

Naan enna sonnaal neengal naan solvadhai nambuveergal ?

Sonnaal pathaadhu, seidhu kondaal dhaan nambuveergal pol ?

R.Subramanian said...

Mr.Anonymous :)

please take a look at my blog

http://rsubras.blogspot.com/2005/10/vaazha-ninaithaal-vaazhala_113060103856145656.html

priya thanks for visiting my blog :)

Prabu Karthik said...

idellam exceptional cases..
but pona generation makkal idhu daan chance nu nammalai parthu advice pannuradhu its not fair i tell u..

indha generation la stress adigam, whether we like it or not. so that inherently makes us more resistant to depression etc, enakku therinchu..

but tharkolai senchukaradu.. ennatha solradu, sometimes i dont feel any sympathy for these people...

also, i think it really helps if people invest their energy not in particular person (as in love failure) or result alone( as in admission) and rather have a well balanced life with a variety of interests to pursue and enjoy...

apdi irukaravanga tharkolai senchukara chance rombo kammi..

Priya said...

pk,
correct dhaan.. avangalaala andha samyathula sariya yosika mudiyardhu illa..andha samayathula atleast kanna thirandhu paatha oorla avanga maari ulla makkal iruppaanga..thanakku mattum dhaan kashtam,, thanna maari yaarume illa.. apdinnu nenakaraanga nnu naan nenakaren..
pk, that relative did not advice.. i wish u saw her with me that day.. kan fulla thanni.but adaki vechi siricha mugathoda she said this statement...that lady is a zoologost andha kaathileye.. but she got married and sacrificed her carreer for family.. avangalukku ipdi nadandhirukka vendaam..enna seiyaa!!

lord labakkudoss said...

welcome back priya... sorry to hear about the "sad" incidents...

Hmm..tholviagalai thaangum pakkuvam illamal irupparthukku I think parents are one of the main reason... they gave their children whatever they want and make them used to it... (starting from the toys and chocaltes), so it makes them diffcult to realise that not all things come easily, even after getting grownup!!!

lord labakkudoss said...

@Arjuna_Speaks... Kolai, Tharkolai, Kalyanam ellam oru instance edukkira mosamaana mudivugal..:-)

romba porumaiya poi "sucide bomb" aaga mudiyathu..

dinesh said...

Priya,

Nice post. The reason I say that, is because a post like this makes people think. Not that you've said anything that people don't already know, but it just makes one wonder.And when people put thought into this, principles for the self are made. These self set principles are accessed when a situation occurs..depression or an urge to end it all.

Our life is not just ours. It is our responsibility to make sure that people around us do not get hurt. When there are people that get hurt when we end our life, then our act amounts to selfishness. That can't happen ! We do not have that right.

Priya said...

llb,
thanks and nice to see u here!!

dinesh,
pinitteenga ponga :)-

Anonymous said...

You mean "அறை வாங்கின மாறி இருந்தது.."?
:p

priya said...

When people become very sensitive in certain issues, they feel loser and feel the pain. We need educational counsellors in schools right from the middle school where people can talk and let go their feeling and emotions.

Not sure if I am welcomed to ur blog!!!!

Priya said...

Ofcourse, You are welcome (I welcome you) Priya!!

and i feel your point is really sensible and awesome!!

யாத்திரீகன் said...

தற்கொலை என்பது கோழைகள் அந்த நொடியில் துணிந்து (?) எடுக்கும் முடிவு என்று சொல்வார்கள்.. உணர்ச்சிவசப்படும் இவர்கள்.. தனக்கும் கீழே அன்றாடம் வாழும் சாதரண வாழ்க்கைக்கே போராடும் நிலையில் உள்ளவர்களை நினைத்துப்பார்க்க கூட தெரிவதில்லை...

எது வெற்றி என்று அங்கீகரிக்கத்தெரியாத சுற்றமும் ஒரு தூண்டுகோல்...

என் தங்கையின் மருத்துவக்கல்லூரியில், உடன் படிக்கும் மாணவியின் தற்கொலை, பல நாட்களாய் திட்டமிட்டு, இன்னின்ன விடங்களுக்கு இன்னின்ன விளைவுகள் உண்டு, இத்தனை நேரமாகும், இத்தனை வலிவேதனைகள் உண்டாகும் என்று நாட்குறிப்பில் குறித்து ஆராய்ச்சி செய்து தான் சாகும் வழியை தேர்ந்தெடுத்த வகுப்பின் முதல் மாணவி அவள்....

எது வாழ்க்கை, எது வெற்றி என்று சரியான அறிமுகப்படுத்துதல் இல்லாததா காரணம் ?

Priya said...

Nacchunnu sonnenga sendhil!!!

Muthukumar Puranam said...

Enaku romba pidicha line..
"I completely accepted it on behalf of our generation".

Priya said...

citizen heronnu nenapaa ungalukku..
'anon' aa vareenga, per sollitu vareenga.. oree get upaa maathi maathi otreengale pb!!

Ram said...

very true. but people in general view someone living just for today as an alien...i wonder why.

R.Subramanian said...

hey priya.. not fair not fair.. oru post pannitu appuram one and a half months chatting in comments ah ;)

adikkadi post pannunga

Junior said...

Quite Sad the instances you describe .. my own take is that in many of the cases many of us may not have learnt to count our blessings .. to have had loving parents or siblings or friends, to have had the opportunity for good education or the material comforts or whatever ..personally i find that 'counting blessings' helps me take disappointments a little better .. and also i think age also makes one more mature ...

well perhaps a very senti post to start off with but i am quite pleasantly surprised to see a nice 'community' of tamils ...

Priya said...

Ram,
it appears like you practice living for today unlike me who attempts ..hope i will get there some day..

subra,
i am a PhD student... oru expta successfulaa pannina oru vaaram aduleye ottiduvom.. hehe.. adhu maariye ingayum varudhu..
hee just kidding.. the truth is i dont get (infact make) a big stretch of time available to write easily..

junior,
yeh, counting blessing namma panradhu illa dhaan.. nalla point..
and welcome to join the ' commmunity' here !!

Ram said...

it's not very easy there, i tell u :P

i have a long way to go myself. sorry if i sounded like a pro!

smiley said...

very sad
i have a feeling that TV and films have a very big impact on inthae kalathu kolanthaigal

Anonymous said...

kannadi is moonu suzhis

Priya said...

yeh.. thanks anon..ennavo vidyaasamaa iruke paakradukkunnu nenachen.. heehee.. thanks..

R.Subramanian said...

tagging panna athai eduthupeengala @ pri

Priya said...

ofcourse yes.. aana topica poruthaan postoda speed irukum..heehee..

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