Friday, March 31, 2006

Ul vaanga thoondum India trip

Coming back to India after 2.5 yrs with so much excitement and anticipation . Some sort of happiness which is tough to narrate !! Lots of changes..Still some things are pretty much the same....ulla irundha effect.. Cant predict which is gonna be same and which will differ..This post is just reflection of what I felt in the last 10 days comparing what i saw before.

Yaanai velai kudarai velai : Had a chance to have breakfast with my appa at Saravana bhavan, annanagar on the very next day after i reached.., 1 sambar vadai, 1 plate idi (thinnest idli i have ever seen),2 coffees,1 ghee dosa - bill Rs.130 ...saapadu enna velaiyappa !!!

Instantaneous anger: After having the feel that if somebody honks, its ur fault at u.s, I was extremely irritated when somebody behind us honked to overtake and take a wrong side left turn..Now i am getting used to the sound.

Cell phone vaangalayo cell phone: Oh My God!!! pookkari, kuppai porukravan also have cell phone- no exaggeration i saw it.. One day (After 4-5 yrs), (ELLORUM PAITHIYAM PIDICHU SAAGAPORAANGA)everybody is going to lose the endothelial layer on the ear drum and everybody is gonna get all neurotoxcity!!! ENT's and psychiatrists are gonna have bright future !!!

Lie and exaggeration : No journal / magazine or t.v channel gives unbiased / unexaggerated news or info. You have use to your brains to extract truth in every info- very much like mamiyaar marumaga sandai!!

aiiiiiiii: I see the traffic signal timer in chennai now..good!!

Pudhusu ivai pudhusu:
National institute of siddha in sanatorium - wow... we are promoting our own traditional medicine system
Kathipara nehru statue - apdiye alaaka thooki pakkathula vechirukkanga for constructing a bridge there
Yaar ivar: a new statue covered by 'thaarpalin sheet' ready to be installed infront of raj bhavan
Auto vaa: Close ur eyes and whisper auto- you would see one infront of you..
Hospitals and scan centers: as of what i see, they are extremely well maintained..
Lady auto drivers in madurai.
Lady paper podravanga in chennai.
Kaaikari vilai- still the same - really cheap!!

Nice weather: Nalla veyyil.. longed to see and feel such weather..every sweat gives me happiness..my skin pores respire properly.

Manithan maaravillai: Appa amma paasam and sentiment, friends looti, T.V serial , relatives formality, paati thatha nocchal are still the same.. But engu paathalum ore odi poyittanga, love marriage news - looks like chennaiites life is revolving around Love or I dont know if people around me are just talking all about Love and Marriage!!! Could not see any young people in temples !!! Ennatha solla !!

still...Scooty rides, share auto, temple visits, road side cane juice, 2 rupees orange drink- lots of things !!
Enjoying my trip !!!

Wednesday, March 01, 2006

Amma Appa - Final

Now, Kaalamegamaai siledai- Naaykkum Thengaaykkum in Tamilkkalvi
Well, what else do I wish to say in amma appa series?? Everyday I think some thing new and consider it to be important and I think" today i will write this"... that 'today' never came till today.. okay.. i am putting down all the thoughts that has come - random thoughts !!!

Ivlo rouse vittaalum amma appakku equivalent illa dhaan !! No doubt about it !! And also I think our parents have made lot of efforts to adapt to the new world, trying their best to keep up with new things like internet (ofcourse with our help only...pat your shoulders) and above all, have not defined themselves as ' i am this this and this and i cant take up this this this' unlike many of our generation people (in my opinion) who sometimes consider many things as nuisance..

But, definitely, I have some things to say to parents (older or newer generation). Please do not get me wrong that I am trying to act mature or better !!

Parents are extremely selfless w.r.t their kids. But how much they are to the society? Parents after becoming so, totally forget to live a life they enjoy or that helps the society (which they wish to but not do practically by setting different priorities !!)

Many of them consider that taking care of every step in our life is their duty and their priority !! Parents who have children with ages in teens and twenties still worry too much, micro-monitor and spend their time overcaring about them. In this aspect, I am kindaa proud of my parents who have learned to live w/o me since 1997 and they have life of their own to an extent. I would say that I have also played a great role in making them to be so.. say like I will never call up at all sometimes and have not set any expectations in their mind that "okay, i need to do this for priya this this and this... " It would be very irritating for them when you curb their care. But you know they learn to do other things other than thinking about me (you).

Still I dont know how effectively many parents set their priority at different stages of life and use their time for society (and not just relatives). I keep pushing my father to join some class of interest say yoga, playing instrument etc. Sometimes , it helps them to realize it when we suggest. Some people dont feel like getting out of their box.

I think there are lots of ways to join the society and contribute which would keep them busy and happy. I really would wish to urge parents to live the life that interests them w/o thinking what it will fetch in future say if you wished to learn something ..do it..!!!

Also worrying too much about relatives is something that I never liked!! (Though people may laugh at this but i (we) dont care abt what others think say, I have really liked the goshti which performs radha kalyanam or whatever in many home. You can see lots of people join them, go and sing bhajans in homes of people whom you dont even know!! wished to join them atleast for a month!!)

Our parents have so much talent say like doing some handicrafts like koodai making, mani bommai making , awesome traditional cooking etc which are getting extinct. It will be really nice if some of them volunteer to teach a group of interested children and pass it on. Some parents and grandparents know great home remedies for small health issues which has real meaning. It will be really nice if even some of us care to identify and bother to pass it on!!

I always wish to get back to india and try to pool info from many such people and do something (say form an association and set up a structure) to pass it on!!! Let us see what God thinks!! But I definitely think the younger generation has to understand the importance of what the oldies have gained through experience and the older generation has to realise what a great treasure they possess and how effectively they can serve the society !!

Any suggestion on what can be done practically???

Thanks for patiently reading amma appa series !!!